In this episode we explore the ways in which we can get in the habit of projecting onto our partner all of the things we want, or want to become, by thinking they need to be everything for us. The truth is to retain our sovereignty, there needs to be enough ‘sameness’ and enough ‘different-ness’ so that two people want to stay. When someone’s values aren’t being met, when someone doesn’t feel seen, we’ll go looking outside the relationship for this. When we cling too tightly, we will breed repulsion, and when we don’t show up, who does…?
Relevant links:
Nourishing the Mother
http://www.nourishingthemother.com.au/
Suburban Sandcastles – Bridget
http://www.suburbansandcastles.com
The Pleasure Nutritionist – Jules
http://www.thepleasurenutritionist.com/