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YEL 099: How Sarah and I work through arguments

Episode 99
11, Feb, 2020
}18 Minutes

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I'm happy to acknowledge that Sarah and I do have times when we argue. That's right, we are not an Instagrammable perfect family or caught in the bliss of blind love, which I hope you've gathered by now. We can get really frustrated with each other. We, like you, are human beings. Below I share HOW the pressure builds up, WHY it occurs, and WHAT we do afterwards to reconcile. I believe working through arguments in key #relationships is beyond pivotal and essential – this skill will control the quality and depth of your most cherished bonds and impact your life for decades to come. How the pressure buildsThere are two major triggers for a barney in our relationship: children, misunderstandings and miscommunicationChildren: Life with four kids is hectic, and from time to time one of us loses it. For Sarah it's normally four kids making demands or asking questions at the same time (this includes Spencer wanting to be fed or put to bed). If I haven't started my day with some time to myself and I go straight into being with the kids, I'm likely to lose it at some point before lunch! This could mean I crack it for no really good reason, which may upset Sarah or the kids, or both! That's why you'll often find me at a cafe or out exercising on a Saturday or Sunday morning!Misunderstandings & miscommunication: Such is the pace of life that often details can be lost in translation. Just yesterday I sent Sarah my travel dates for 2020 but no doubt something new will come up and I'll forget to pass it on. In addition, I find I can often mishear what Sarah says and interpret it to mean something else. I could snap back and cause an argument that was completely preventable!Why we argueAll conflict is a values conflict. This mantra from Dr John Demartini is burnt into my brain. Any fight you have is because you see the world differently at one point in time to another. Rest is in the video :)==========Exceptional Love & Relationships forms a key part of Create Your Exceptional Life – my signature 2-day event held in Byron Bay this year May 16-17. If this is a key area of growth for you I invite you to attend. ==========

Posted by Marcus Pearce on Monday, February 10, 2020

 

I’m happy to acknowledge that Sarah and I do have times when we argue. That’s right, we are not an Instagrammable perfect family or caught in the bliss of blind love, which I hope you’ve gathered by now.

We can get really frustrated with each other. We, like you, are human beings.

Below I share HOW the pressure builds up, WHY it occurs, and WHAT we do afterwards to reconcile.

I believe working through arguments in key #relationships is beyond pivotal and essential – this skill will control the quality and depth of your most cherished bonds and impact your life for decades to come.

How the pressure builds

There are two major triggers for a barney in our relationship: children, misunderstandings and miscommunication

Children: Life with four kids is hectic, and from time to time one of us loses it. For Sarah it’s normally four kids making demands or asking questions at the same time (this includes Spencer wanting to be fed or put to bed). If I haven’t started my day with some time to myself and I go straight into being with the kids, I’m likely to lose it at some point before lunch! This could mean I crack it for no really good reason, which may upset Sarah or the kids, or both! That’s why you’ll often find me at a cafe or out exercising on a Saturday or Sunday morning!

Misunderstandings & miscommunication: Such is the pace of life that often details can be lost in translation. Just yesterday I sent Sarah my travel dates for 2020 but no doubt something new will come up and I’ll forget to pass it on. In addition, I find I can often mishear what Sarah says and interpret it to mean something else. I could snap back and cause an argument that was completely preventable!

Why we argue

All conflict is a values conflict. This mantra from Dr John Demartini is burnt into my brain. Any fight you have is because you see the world differently at one point in time to another. Rest is in the video 🙂

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Exceptional Love & Relationships forms a key part of Create Your Exceptional Life – my signature 2-day event held in Byron Bay this year May 16-17. If this is a key area of growth for you I invite you to attend.

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